You’re going to regret something.
Skipping the gym? You might regret that tomorrow.
Sleeping in instead of praying? You might regret that in a few weeks.
Staying stuck in a toxic mindset? That kind of regret builds over time—until it owns you.
But choosing healing, growth, and obedience?
You might feel the sting now… but you WILL NOT regret where it takes you.
At the end of my life, I don’t just want to be remembered for being “nice” or doing “good things.”
I want to hear the words:
“Well done, good and faithful servant.” — Matthew 25:23
That’s not just a sweet Christian phrase. It’s the actual goal.
And it’s gonna cost us.
God freely gives us mercy (His forgiveness), righteousness (right standing), and grace (the power to live free). But what we do with it? That part’s up to us.
In Matthew 25, Jesus tells the story of a master who gave his servants “talents”—literal bags of gold.
Some invested what they were given. One buried it.
Why? Comfort. Fear. Playing it safe.
And when the master came back, he didn’t reward the one who played it safe.
He honored the ones who risked something and multiplied what they were given.
That parable isn’t just about money—it’s about everything God has placed in your hands.
The journey of faith also requires a choice:
Will we choose comfort, or will we choose obedience?
And let me be clear—we MUST not confuse comfort with contentment.
Paul said he learned to be content in every circumstance.
That’s beautiful.
But comfort? That’s something else entirely.
Comfort is:
- Refusing to shift our mindset
- Blaming others instead of looking inward
- Settling for survival instead of pursuing healing
- Going through the motions without engaging with God
- Choosing numbing over intimacy with the Holy Spirit
Comfort pretends things are fine when they’re not.
Comfort says “it’s not that serious” when God is trying to deal with your heart.
Comfort tells you it’s someone else’s fault… because it’s easier than facing your own brokenness.
We blame failed relationships on others.
We blame the church for not meeting our needs.
We blame God for not answering how we thought He would.
But the truth?
We haven’t stepped out of our comfort zone and chosen to do the deep, slow, step-by-step work of healing.
Romans 12:2 reminds us:
“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”
Healing takes time.
Transformation takes intention.
And shifting your mindset? It can feel IMPOSSIBLE when comfort is your default.
Let me be real: I have spent the last few years being frustrated with my parents and blaming them for a lot of things. Some of it is valid, some of it… just me not wanting to face my stuff.
I’ve since repented. I’ve forgiven them for things they didn’t even know about (most things were passive, not active things… like not prioritizing exercise)
But the Lord showed me something deeper.
I started asking:
How am I showing up for my girls?
Because how I live now—my habits, my health, my intimacy with the Lord, my view of work and prayer and healing—that’s what they’re going to carry.
And I don’t want them to inherit my comfort.
I want them to witness my courage, my relationship with the Lord, my authenticity, my willingness to shift/heal/grow/change.
No, I don’t think you can live a life totally free from regret.
But you CAN choose the kind of regret that leads to healing instead of hiding.
Don’t wait until the end of your life to realize comfort was the real thief.
Choose the regret that leads to life—not the one that keeps you stuck.
Your friend, Caitlyn